I saw thins on the NaNoWriMo forums and thought it seemed a good idea so I’m re-posting it here
What to do if you have a Friend NaNoing in November…
1. Be ready to simply nod your head when your “How are you doing?” is answered with “Well, my characters have quit talking to me and I can’t feel my fingertips and everything is a little gray but I discovered it’s because my monitor needed to be cleaned off and I’ve run out of Mountain Dew.” But still ask because that is the polite thing to do.
2. Don’t feel as if you need to know the characters and plot lines to give advice. Sometimes the best advice is simply “Have you tried killing someone off?” or “When was the last time you had an XTZ mint?” Feel free to say the first thing that comes into your head as long as it isn’t “So, what’s going on exactly?” because that is almost never helpful and results in the writer trying to come up with a concise explanation of the past 1667 words. Don’t make the writer go BACK in time. Force her FORWARD.
3. Remind your friend to drink water. It’s amazing what a hydrated writer will come up with on the way back from the sink. Be prepared to bring up this reminder often as the writer has most likely forgotten the glass of water on the counter in the kitchen.
4. Write down prompt ideas and have them ready for the inevitable “I don’t know what is next!” rants. These are as simple as the color of the bowl you had cereal out of (blue bowl with white lines at the rims) or what you saw on the way home from work (black dog taking a piss on the cool tree with the red leaves) or what you felt when you got your drivers license (fear and abject loathing for the car waiting for me in the driveway).
5. Don’t be afraid of silence. Feel free to say a word of greeting and see what happens next. Your friend may need a break.
6. Don’t, under any circumstances, bring up TV shows you may watch together unless your friend does it first. TV is usually one of the first things to be silenced during November. You’ll only hurt your friends head with too much information.
7. Do send music to your friend. Music is like flowers in the garden of the Muse. The more you can befriend the Muse, the better your friendship will be.
8. Send Mountain Dew! Well, maybe not. If you are able to, find the junk food of choice for your friend (mine is TESCO potatoe chips and relentless) and keep it on hand for emergencies. Of course, don’t taunt the writer with your happy eating if you are too far away to share. Cookies over the internet are funny but depressing in the wrong context.
9. Don’t ever ask your friend “What time did you go to bed last night?” It’s a pointless question that will only make the writer have to count backwards in time which might be too taxing. Instead, remember that sleep is what December is for.
10. Once again, be ready to nod your head and respond semi-coherently to the inevitable discussion about word counts. If possible, follow along with any counter that your friend may have up. And yes, he or she will have a counter. It’s inevitable. Your friend will get maniacal about said counter and will expect you to care, too.
[Written by Larinzia Hope, edited by dru to reflect her junk food tastes]
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