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Babies
Don’t panic, I’m not pregnant.
There’s a lot of talk going on over at Spacefem atm about getting married, growing up and having kids and houses etc. Lately I’ve also been feeling a little… I don’t know, broody I guess. Every time I come on, the hormones kick in and I start thinking about kids and growing up and becoming a Responsible Adult.
A while back I had a bit of a scare. I was throwing up almost every morning, and my period was late. Turned out period was late due to stress and throwing up was due to the fact I wasn’t taking my antihistamines but my diet was still full of shite.
It made me realise that, at the time at least, if there had been some sort of accident I would have been fine with bringing a kid into the world. Maybe that’s what set me off, I don’t know. Anyway the past month Lady S revealed that she was preggers and that set off a huge forum thread about babies and one of the things that were said was [by several people who have kids] was ‘if you just got married, FFS give yourselves a few years to be a couple before you have kids’.
A while back [when Andy was still with sonic IQ] Andy and I sort of had a talk about babies which kinda went:
Me, I think we should have a baby. Or at least come off contraception and see what happens.
Andy, no I don’t think we’re ready.
me, but we have a house, stable incomes. I think I’d be okay having a kid.
Andy, Uh. I don’t think we’re ready.
Me, *huff* okay then.
And then the other day we had another one, which went the opposite.
Andy: I’ve been thinking. Maybe we are ready to have a kid. if you want.
Me: Actually, I’ve been thinking too and [person on spacefem] said ‘if you just got married, FFS give yourselves a few years to be a couple before you have kids’ so maybe we should. We’ve only been married a year or so.
Andy: Ah. Okay then.
Me: You know this is a very adult conversation to be having in the toilet.
Andy: *smirk*
I guess this is his way of telling me he’s ready too 
[I don’t know why I’m posting this, it just seemed like an important thing to be noted]
2 comments
There's never a perfect time, you'll never be 100% ready. If you look, there is always some reason not to.
My parents had all their kids when they were pretty young, now we're all out of the house and they're off riding their motorcycles across Canada and planning trips to Greece for the summer. Plus they can keep up with my daughter most days without it being a big chore.
All the best to you guys and whatever you decide.
It's come up a couple of time with friends of late. If you do great if not also great. Just make sure all you talk about is not the geekling
For me I don't think I am in any position to even contemplate either marriage or babies, the former I don't see the point in and the latter I see as the end of my life.
Bah now I'm depressed.
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